I find it interesting, maybe even sad, the state of people today… Why is it that people seem so mean anymore? What happened to the days of smiling and saying hello, or excuse me. What happened to friendliness, patience, and manners. Where is the world headed?
So why are we so crochety as a people? Yes, the world can be a shitty place. Yes, you may be tired. Yes, you may not have enough money I know I don’t. But Lord! Didn’t anyone ever tell you that the nicer you act, the better you feel? Fake it to Make it yeah, they are talking about your attitude. Yada, yada, yada.
I got up at 3:30 this morning to catch a train at 4:30 to catch a plane at 6:55. I was in a good mood, tired, but good mood. I was going home to Brian and Bailey. I had a wonderful weekend although I did shed some tears with my ‘extended’ family. Saw kindness and sharing and giving in so many ways. All this from a bunch of Northerners I don’t know why we have such a bad rep.
I took Southwest Airlines from Philadelphia to Raleigh this morning and the crew was crappy. I have been traveling via air since before I could walk. My father was an air traffic controller. I have been around airplanes my whole life. Let me tell you, this was the worst crew I have ever had the displeasure of traveling with. Their announcements on ways to protect yourself in case of a crash at a 100,000 miles up as if we would really survive were not only as dry as over grilled chicken the way my dad makes it, it was just downright… I’m at a loss for words here. It was like we were wasting their time or something. We were annoying them because they had to read that shit. It probably gets tiring to read that crap for every flight, knowing that no one is listening to you. You know what though. That’s your job! Suck it up! Then the lady I think it was a lady says, ”if you’re still texting [now that the door has been closed], you may finish your text from jail.” Seriously? Did she just say that? Way to start the flight, Good Morning to you too Sunshine! Dang! Who pissed in your Cheerios? (Side Note: And I didn’t tell you this… Cell phones don’t actually interfere with the planes communication. I know a couple people who never turn their phones off in the air, a few who actually work with the communicating part of flying… I’m just saying) Ok. Whatever. Then she instructs us on how to turn our individual lights on, then proceeds to tell us that if we haven’t turned them on now that we have lost our chance to turn them on. Really? Why? Will they not turn on when you turn the other lights out anymore? Or are we all too blind to see in the semi-darkness? She was such a pleasure to fly with… Initially the girl sitting next to me wouldn’t talk to me either. I don’t even understand that. Do people think that if you speak to them you may infect them? It’s not that I want to talk through the whole flight, believe me I don’t, but a few, friendly words with the person that will be sitting next to you for the next hour or so never hurt anyone. I don’t want to know your name, occupation, age, social security number, or anything else. But I can’t hurt you by saying, “It looks like we may get lucky” because we may get an empty seat between us. But whatever. Then there are the girls that would not stop talking. It is 7 am, we all had to get up at 3:30 or so this morning to catch this flight. Just becasue you have had a pot of coffee and spent an hour on your hair and makeup and outfit, and you are ready to grad the day by its horns, does not mean that the rest of us want to hear you! Now this is where my gripes with manners comes in. Ok, so you are a morning person! Great! I am happy for you! I don’t want to hear you though. It is perfectly acceptable to talk quietly to the person next to you. Inside voice. But this person, on the complete other side of the plane, a seat back, she doesn’t want to hear any of your conversation. The occasional stifled laugh, yes. The hour long high pitched, annoying voices… NO! Where are these women’s manners? I know I sound like the jerk here, but really, no one else is talking that loudly, especially not for the duration of the flight… There is no reason for it. Then the lady taking drink orders… same lady who did the announcements? wakes up the girl next to me to ask her if she wants a drink… Really? I don’t know about that girl, but this one… does not like to be woken up. We know that drinks are served on this flight. We know if we are asleep we don’t get the drink. Don’t wake us up. See above for the time we woke up this morning. Ok, so I read a little, turned my light off oh no took a little nap… snoozing peacefully… the announcements come on about seats in upright positions and trays in upright and locked positions… I press the chair button, I’m upright in no time and back to being fast asleep… Then I feel an unpleasant tap,tap on my shoulder. Not a ‘hey, excuse me ma’am’ tap, an ‘I’m annoyed with you wake up GDit’ tap. I open my eyes and there is a flight attendant leaning over the girl sharing a row with me. “Put your chair up”, he booms and walks away. The girl next to me looks at me as my jaw is open and I look dumfoundely after the attendant. I stated, “my chair is up” as I press the button again am I going crazy and I proceed to not move. Then I press it again, harder. Still no more movement. After that all sleep was lost. Grr.
It is at this point that I make a decision that the flight in, with the almost over-the-top-comedian/entertainer-wanna-be flight attendant, and strangely submissive girl sitting next to me with the Cackling Sisters starting vacation behind me was definitely a better choice. I also made up my mind… I was going to tell the flight attendant. I went over a million things I could say to him… But in the end, all I said was, “Sir, my seat was up.” And he said, “Oh, I’m sorry,” with a smile. I believe he meant it. After that my mood returned to good. I thought about telling the High-Pitched Women a little something or other, but I’m sure I would have just sounded like a… mean person.
Yes, I did find kindness through out my journey. Yes, I am guilty of being down right mean to people who don’t always deserve it. After this I am going to try harder to have more patience with people and not take my frustrations out on an inoccent stranger.
I am also going to try to remember the kindness that I did find on my travels. The person that helped me get my bag down, the friend that waited with me at the train station at 0′dark-thirty, the friend that took most of a day off to scoop me up from an airport that was not so close or convenient, the stranger that returned friendly salutations… Thank you to the nice people.
P.S. Mean People Suck









a headwind that was blowing straight in from hell, and then came the crosswind that almost knocked us right off our bikes countless times. I’m not sure if I’ve ridden through such intense headwinds ever before. It was like a driving force pushing me back down the hill. Every climb was a fight to the death. And then the rain came, again. So today was treacherous wind, chilly, and wet. We missed our turn on the way to lunch and made it

We jumped on our bikes and were out of camp really early (for us). We trudged most of the day through the rain, and cold, and grey. Not a great motivational aspect for the day… 


we got to Athlantic Highland and we had a picnic lunch. I was the last person to leave the lunch spot, and so road a lot of the day alone. Near the end of the day, I caught up with a group traveling about my speed and I road and chatted with them for the rest of the ride. We missed our turn twice, and so road a few extra miles…